Today I've felt compelled to blog about one of those twists which has little to do with Property, unless living in a Food Mixer is your idea of a dream property! It might just resonate with some people and that's what blogging is about - connecting with people. I'm also hoping it will be my springboard back into blogging about Property.
Living in a Food Mixer
If your partner has had Cancer you will know what it’s
like. If you want to know what it’s like
I can tell you my own version – it’s like living in a food mixer. Sometimes you’re mixed with sweet things,
sometimes bitter, occasionally both and that’s when you don’t know how it will
turn out.
The medics are amazing but they don’t help much. There were two that really mattered, the one
who was determined to find out which bit of my husband’s body had let him down
and the one who had the courage and skill to remove the knackered Kidney. The rest are just clever, nice people trained
to do the impossible – make your life easier, but it doesn’t work. Pills to stop the cancer returning – but you
never know; pills to reduce the blood
pressure, the rash, the painful hands and feet, all caused by the pills to stop
the cancer returning; pills to stop the insomnia caused by the pills to reduce
the blood pressure … all into the mixer.
All the pills to make life sweeter do just that – on one day,
but on the next they make life bitter.
Some days start sweet then end bitter.
Some days start bitter then end sweet.
What you want is to go on holiday, to Italy or Spain - to
the sun – for a month or two. That would
make life sweeter. But no, your husband
might be poorly, he might find himself in Italy or Spain with no blood pressure
pills or even worse his remaining kidney might fail. These things probably won’t happen, at least
when you stay at home you’re told they won’t.
But if you don’t go outside you won’t get run over by a bus either.
There’s nothing wrong with you until you say you want to go somewhere
exciting and enjoy yourself. Far better
to stay safely at home waiting for the next phone call, blood test or pill top
up. Better to slide into a depression
staring out of the window at home than risk watching fire flies dancing under
warm stars, better to sleep the boring
afternoons away than overdo things playing Archery, better to go to Tesco in the rain than swim in
warm waters or cycle along the beautiful shores of Lake Trasimeno.
It helps to be at home where they can ring and check how you
feel, take more blood and tick their boxes.
That way they feel good when they go home because they’ve been caring
and considerate – they really do care which makes it taste so bitter sweet. They’re happy your blood is OK and you will
live another day. But are you alive? Were you not dreaming of azure skies, warm
seas, great food and the sun warming your tired body when they rang to remind
you what it is to feel poorly?
So you postponed your holiday, it will be easier to go later
in the year, fewer boxes to tick and you’ll be healed then, you don’t have
cancer so there’s nothing to stop you. You postponed it six months to September,
reduced it to one month instead of two.
You rang everyone to check and double check, to organise dates to suit
all. The mixer has produced a fine sweet after all.
Then the phone rings again. “We must change your appointment
Mr King, the consultant can’t see you in August, it must be September.” You sigh, you feel depressed and you tell
them so. They have something for that. You
return to the mixer and consider your plight.
But you won’t be beaten this time.
You won’t accept bitter, you want sweet.
So you beg, plead and make a nuisance of yourself. The administrator is unhappy, she grumbles
but reluctantly this time she gives in.
The sweet has been rescued once more.
Then the phone rings again. “You’re depressed. Would you like to come on an anxiety course?”
“Yes, please.”
“It starts in September.”